Rules of Attraction pt.II
- On couples: Lust brings people together, love keeps them together (or should I say mutual dependence keeps them together? Maybe that's just me being cynical)
- Lust ignites a relationship, love sustains it.
I didn’t know which sounded better
posted by Banana Mango at 8/16/2005 04:01:00 am
5 Comments:
That is such bullshit Kris--i think you are just generalising in order to excuse both your shallowness and your lack of experience. I know numerous people who weren't initally physically attracted to their partners but were drawn to each other due to aspects of personality rather than the body.
thanks anonymous.
no freakin worries you sarcastic bag of dirt.
While you're here anon - you mention personality, did you read my post about it?
If being attracted to personality aspects is morally greater than being attracted to physical aspects, then I think it's important to look at what personality is. If personality is controlled by our "self", or "soul", etc, then you'd have to say that this self has more significance than personality. If personality is fixed, unchangeable, then the whole concept of morality and accountability is dubious.
Anyway, I don't think there's anything morally wrong with being shallow like you seem to be suggesting. Being shallow may well come back to bit you on the ass if it causes you to overlook incompatibility, but it's a victimless crime.
I dont think personality is necessarily controlled by the soul--who's to say whether a soul exists or not? If a soul does exist, I think it helps to define a personality better than a body type. But even the 'self' or the 'soul' are not merely terms to be used interchangeably with personality. I think personality also reflects upon our own predispositions to certain stimuli, types of people and situations in the external world. To an extent, your body type is an indicator of certain personality traits, but this is to me a very superficial way of defining and understanding any personality! So I still think that shallowness is not as moral a basis for being attracted to and staying with a person.
ps. Being shallow is not a victimless crime: if for example, one chooses to overlook compatibility due to one's own shallowness, it is their loss on a potentially wonderful union of any sort--such people eventually become victim's unto themselves.
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